The Womans Guide to Younger Men – Women
The Womans Guide to Younger Men
Chris Olander
I often awake to find Beverly, my older wife, wrapped around me like a Virginia creeper. In the nineteen years since we met, she has shown me what true love is, and I couldnt live without it. For the first time, I have someone who wants me as much as I want her.
Falling in love with an older woman is the best thing I ever did, and Im not alone. The percentage of women marrying younger men doubled over the past two decades, and women marrying for the second time are seven times more likely to marry a younger man.
Listen to women with younger husbands or lovers and youll hear:
"Were a perfect fit,"
"He accepts me as I am,"
"He keeps me young,"
"I liked it on top."
If you havent discovered the joys of a younger man, its probably cultural. Close your eyes and imagine a romantic couple snuggling together. One person is older and distinguished; the other is young and sexy. What do you see in your minds eye If its an older man with his second or third wife, youre not alone. Hollywood is run by men, so its hard to escape their fantasies.
Perhaps its time to rewrite the script. Women who consider younger partners triple their chances of finding the love they deserve. More importantly, older women and younger men enjoy equal, open, and exciting relationships. As one forty-seven year old divorcee with a twenty-eight year old lover says, "Younger men are just more fun."
The first step in finding the right partner is to know more about yourself. What are you passionate about Think about people, places, objects, issues, careers, organizations, and hobbies. Write down several, starting with the most important.
Close your eyes and imagine your ideal soulmate. What things must you share Whats "negotiable" Careful, this doesnt mean ignoring your feelings, denying deeply held beliefs, or trying to change someone else. Whats "non-negotiable"
Imagine yourself on your deathbed. What are three things you wish you had done This may seem like a curious way to find a mate, but sometimes were too busy living our lives to question whether its the right life. Think about what you really want, not what you think you should want. This might include raising a family, succeeding at your career, building a business, fighting for an issue, or finding a spiritual community. We all have many roles in life, but pick your top three priorities.
Now look in the mirror and remember yourself ten years ago. Didnt you have many of the same hopes and dreams then that you have now Imagine the ideal partner for your younger self. Before thinking "hes too young for me," ask, "too young for what" It might be time to "think again" about younger men.
If you cant imagine yourself with a younger man, let your interests, aspirations, and values guide you. The best way to find someone worthwhile is to become the person you always wanted to be. By being good to yourself and others, you help people become better and you attract better people.
Visualize doing something with your soulmate no, outside the bedroom. Where are you Browsing at the local bookstore Jogging Building homes for poor families If youre looking for the right person, you can meet your ideal partner anytime, anywhere, doing almost anything.
The most important thing is to be yourself rather than pretending to be someone you think others will want. Remember the "rules" for women that advised: "Dont talk to a man first" and "Dont call him and rarely return his calls" You can make your own rules by understanding that age is an asset. If you believe in yourself, youll look for someone to complement you rather than complete you.
Start by being less concerned about whether a man is older, wiser, richer, taller, or all the things you might have wanted when you were sixteen. the most important thing about a man is his character. Younger guys may need guidance, but we all teach others how to treat us, and older women are better teachers.
No matter what your age, you dont need to change the world to find love, sometimes all that has to change is you. If you are open to a different kind of relationship, a younger man will appear in your life. It happens all the time.
About The Author
Copyright 2004 - Chris K. Olander
Chris Olander, author of The Ageless Love trilogy at http://www.youngerlover.com, is Executive Director Emeritus of two private foundations in New York City. He lives with his wife Beverly in Cornwall on Hudson, NY.
Olander5@aol.com
Pine Furniture Care Guide – Home
Pine Furniture Care Guide
Steve Hattrick
First, some background on PINE WOOD. Pine is a naturally soft wood which continues to "breathe", based upon changes in the local home, office, store, etc. humidity and temperature. On the individual furniture piece there may be slight defects, such as knots,and shakessmall cracks in the surface of the wood. Some minor shrinkage may sometimes occur. These natural irregularities in pine enhance its overall uniqueness.
Do not place this product next to a radiator or in direct sunlight. Wood is a natural product and will expand if subjected to damp and will shrink and may crack if subjected to heat. This product is made of pine, which is a timber that is common for furniture, but susceptible to temperature changes. With pine furniture it is recommended that an even room temperature be maintained with no sudden temperature fluctuations, up or down.
Do not place HOT or CHILLED items directly on to the surface, use a place mat. Or marking will occur.
For general cleaning use a duster or damp cloth ALMOST DRY not wet.
Do not use soap and water or detergents of any kind on this product for cleaning. To maintain the characteristic finish on this furniture, do not use aerosol sprays or any polish containing Silicon. If unsure, try on an area thats not seen and look for reactions. There is a natural stain and finish on this furniture and it will react to most manmade products.
It will from time to time require the surface re-treating again to maintain its character. You can easily do this yourself using block wax unperfumed, rubbing it over the whole item, following the manufacturers instruction. After treating your furniture, you may notice it is slightly more waxier than previously. This is normal because wood is a natural product that breathers and absorbs depending on room temperature.
The use of any cleaning materials other materials other than those recommended could damage the surface and will invalidate any claim.
From time to time it may be necessary to tighten fittings. This is normal and regular inspections should be carried out.
Do not place furniture onto a wet or damp floor as staining may occur to your floor.
Indian Sheesham
Furniture made from Indian Sheesham is provided in its natural state. It will appear polished due to the natural oil occuring in the wood. You should wipe your furniture with a damp cloth to remove any dust from manufacturing. The oil on the surface will evaporate after a few days outdoors. It is the oil that remains below the surface that gives the wood its durability. Some of these oils may bleed out following the first few rainfalls, and initially, you will want to bring your cushions in when the furniture is wet. Once the furniture has begun to form the silver-grey patina, it is no longer necessary to bring the cushions indoors.
To clean the furniture without removing the silver-grey patina simply use soap and water. Should you want to maintain the golden brown color, we recommend a teak sealer be applied every 12-18 months. Wood sealers are usually solvent based with water-like viscosity containing mould, ultra-violet light and moisture protection. The Wood protector should be applied after cleaning and drying out your furniture. We do not recommend painting Indian Sheesham as the woods natural oils can affect how the paint adheres. Teak has qualities unlike any other wood as it has the ability to withstand the rigors of adverse climates.
About The Author
Steve Hattrick Proprietor 10 years experience
Konteaki Furniture Importers
http://www.hattrick-furniture.co.uk