The Womans Guide to Younger Men – Women
The Womans Guide to Younger Men
Chris Olander
I often awake to find Beverly, my older wife, wrapped around me like a Virginia creeper. In the nineteen years since we met, she has shown me what true love is, and I couldnt live without it. For the first time, I have someone who wants me as much as I want her.
Falling in love with an older woman is the best thing I ever did, and Im not alone. The percentage of women marrying younger men doubled over the past two decades, and women marrying for the second time are seven times more likely to marry a younger man.
Listen to women with younger husbands or lovers and youll hear:
"Were a perfect fit,"
"He accepts me as I am,"
"He keeps me young,"
"I liked it on top."
If you havent discovered the joys of a younger man, its probably cultural. Close your eyes and imagine a romantic couple snuggling together. One person is older and distinguished; the other is young and sexy. What do you see in your minds eye If its an older man with his second or third wife, youre not alone. Hollywood is run by men, so its hard to escape their fantasies.
Perhaps its time to rewrite the script. Women who consider younger partners triple their chances of finding the love they deserve. More importantly, older women and younger men enjoy equal, open, and exciting relationships. As one forty-seven year old divorcee with a twenty-eight year old lover says, "Younger men are just more fun."
The first step in finding the right partner is to know more about yourself. What are you passionate about Think about people, places, objects, issues, careers, organizations, and hobbies. Write down several, starting with the most important.
Close your eyes and imagine your ideal soulmate. What things must you share Whats "negotiable" Careful, this doesnt mean ignoring your feelings, denying deeply held beliefs, or trying to change someone else. Whats "non-negotiable"
Imagine yourself on your deathbed. What are three things you wish you had done This may seem like a curious way to find a mate, but sometimes were too busy living our lives to question whether its the right life. Think about what you really want, not what you think you should want. This might include raising a family, succeeding at your career, building a business, fighting for an issue, or finding a spiritual community. We all have many roles in life, but pick your top three priorities.
Now look in the mirror and remember yourself ten years ago. Didnt you have many of the same hopes and dreams then that you have now Imagine the ideal partner for your younger self. Before thinking "hes too young for me," ask, "too young for what" It might be time to "think again" about younger men.
If you cant imagine yourself with a younger man, let your interests, aspirations, and values guide you. The best way to find someone worthwhile is to become the person you always wanted to be. By being good to yourself and others, you help people become better and you attract better people.
Visualize doing something with your soulmate no, outside the bedroom. Where are you Browsing at the local bookstore Jogging Building homes for poor families If youre looking for the right person, you can meet your ideal partner anytime, anywhere, doing almost anything.
The most important thing is to be yourself rather than pretending to be someone you think others will want. Remember the "rules" for women that advised: "Dont talk to a man first" and "Dont call him and rarely return his calls" You can make your own rules by understanding that age is an asset. If you believe in yourself, youll look for someone to complement you rather than complete you.
Start by being less concerned about whether a man is older, wiser, richer, taller, or all the things you might have wanted when you were sixteen. the most important thing about a man is his character. Younger guys may need guidance, but we all teach others how to treat us, and older women are better teachers.
No matter what your age, you dont need to change the world to find love, sometimes all that has to change is you. If you are open to a different kind of relationship, a younger man will appear in your life. It happens all the time.
About The Author
Copyright 2004 - Chris K. Olander
Chris Olander, author of The Ageless Love trilogy at http://www.youngerlover.com, is Executive Director Emeritus of two private foundations in New York City. He lives with his wife Beverly in Cornwall on Hudson, NY.
Olander5@aol.com
Are Women Really Superior to Men – Women
Are Women Really Superior to Men
Salma N. Ajani
While doing my search for this idea, I came across something interesting on the web. At a hospital the relatives gathered in the waiting room, where a family member lay gravely ill. Finally, the doctor came in looking tired and serious.
Surveying the worried faces, the doctor said, "Im afraid Im the bearer of bad news. The only hope left for your loved one at this time is a brain transplant. Its an experimental procedure, very risky, you will have to pay for the brain yourselves."
The family members sat silent as they absorbed the news. After a great length of time, someone asked, "Well, how much does a brain cost"
The doctor quickly responded, "$5,000 for a male brain, and $200 for a female brain."
The moment turned awkward. Men in the room tried not to smile; avoiding eye contact with the women, but some actually smirked. One man, unable to control his curiosity, blurted out the question everyone wanted to ask, "Why is the male brain so much more expensive"
The doctor smiled at the childish innocence and said to the entire group, "Its just standard pricing procedure. We have to mark down the price of the female brains, because theyve been used."
Keeping all kidding aside, let
Internet Marketing In A Room FULL Of Naked Men! – Domain Name
Internet Marketing In A Room FULL Of Naked Men!
Willie Crawford
NO, thats not one of my secret dreams :- Its an observation that you need to make. Years ago, I read Harvey MacKays fantastic best-seller, Beware The Naked Man Who Offers You His Shirt. I really enjoyed the book and even sent Harvey a note. He sent me an autographed copy of his book "Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive." Its one of my most prized possessions - but back to the naked man...
When you surf the various websites offering advice and information products teaching you how to earn an online income, it becomes glaringly obvious that many people who created these products havent done what they teach! They are in effect, "naked men offering you their shirts."
Anyone just starting out online can understand why this happens. If you put up a website on making money online, and you admit that you havent made any yet, people will realize that you have no useful advice to pass on. To avoid this consequence, beginners often "fake it, until they make it."
One of the reasons many online marketers never "make it" in the first place is because they ARE following the advice of "naked men." They are absorbing, believing, and then re-teaching the conventional wisdom so prevalently shared in the internet marketing arena. The consequence is that not only does the creator of the info product fail, but so do all of his mislead followers.
We have two problems within this situation. The first is, "How does a beginner establish himself as an expert if he has achieved no major online marketing success" The answer is that he creates a product in an area that he IS an expert in or that he has very thoroughly researched.
The beginner can also very easily create a product by interviewing or partnering with someone possessing the knowledge or skills he lacks. I sort of touched upon this in another article I wrote entitled, "Dont Pretend To Be An Expert, Become One." That article is available on my website at:
http://williecrawford.com/articles.html
The second problem is in knowing who is genuine and who hasnt really learned the ropes yet. My advice to many of my clients is to fully check out anyone before following their advice. Simply go to any major search engine and enter their domain or their name. Visit many, MANY of the sites that are listed as featuring something related to this so-called expert. This will give you a very good feel for who you are really dealing with.
If sites about them contain testimonials, contact some of the people providing the testimonial... especially if something doesnt quite "feel right." Thats right... Im advising you to trust your instincts.
Another way to easily check out someone is by using a website called "The Way Back Machine." This website visits sites scattered across the internet and takes a snapshot of them. So if someone tells you that theyve been in business for 5 years and you see that their only website is barely a year old, run away very fast - and dont look back!
The way back machine can be found at: http://www.archive.org/web/web.php
If you enter my url, http://williecrawford.com in the search box, you will see that it offers snapshots of how sad this website looked beginning in 1998. Prior to that time, all of my websites were self-replicated websites offered by various affiliates programs, and websites built on free hosts such as FreeYellow, Angelfire, Hypermart, Webspawner, and about 30 others :-
To digress just a little, I purchased my own domain name when someone responded to one of my posts in Links Exchange Digest insisting that I would have a lot more credibility if I got my own domain name AND ditched the Hotmail account. I kept websites on free hosts for several more years, but finally started really listening. People were telling me that using a free hosting company... building and promoting their domain, was just bad business. When I listened and took their advice, thats when things REALLY took off for me.
Ive just pointed out to you a way to avoid the naked man look. If you are a beginner, get you own domain... one with a url that is easy to remember and that suggests what your business is all about. My domain name, WillieCrawford.com was a poor choice in many ways, but over the years it has developed a very strong brand. My second flag-ship domain, Chitterlings.com, was a better choice since it centered around "soul food" and the name was easy to remember to anyone familiar with that category of cooking.
Another way for beginners to avoid pretending to be something that you are not, and build online credibility, is simply to market other peoples products. If you want a higher than normal commission either approach them about joint ventures, or obtain reprint rights to in-demand products. Dont waste your time and resources promoting products that there is no demand for. Many reprint rights that are offered for free are priced that way because the owner of the product couldnt sell them :-
The benefit of obtaining products that are proven sellers through reprint rights is that you often get a tested website that will generate a steady income for you if you just drive traffic to it. Its really easy, but again, you have to make sure that the product is one that is worth the effort. The criteria that I use and suggest you use is, ask yourself if you would purchase the product at the price you plan on offering it for. Also read the template website being offered and notice whether or not it gets you really pumped up. If not, look elsewhere.
I do recommend that you eventually develop your own product or service. However, that may take some time. In the interim you need to establish a professional business thats built on quality and integrity. Avoid coming across as a fake or "naked man." Also beware of those who have to fake it until they make it. You know and appreciate that we all had to start somewhere. Most of us could not afford to buy a huge, thriving web business, so we had to start from meager beginning. Just look at my websites in The Way Back Machine for proof of that :-
Copyright 2004 Willie Crawford
About The Author
Willie Crawford has been teaching others how to build an on-line business since late 1996. Frequently featured in radio, magazine and newspaper articles and interviews, Willie teaches the average guy what the top marketers are doing but seldom talking about. Willie provides detailed how to information in his newsletter, through his personal coaching, and at his annual how to workshop. Learn more at: http://InternetMarketingHowToWorkshop.com